Wednesday, January 23, 2008

The importance of choice

Yesterday was Blogging for Choice day, but as I can't get my crap together, I am a day late.

There are many reasons to vote pro-choice. The health, sanity, and equality of women in inextricably wrapped up in their reproductive functions. Women are still seen as vessels for the human race, and they are considered solely responsible for their children and their actions well past childhood. Women are still denied work, health coverage, equal pay, and respect as a result of the possibility that they may bear children.

Carrying a pregnancy to term is difficult. Labor is difficult. Raising a child is difficult. That doesn't mean that some people can do these things. There are millions of women that can and do every day. There are also millions of women that have difficulty with these tasks. Physical or mental illness, poverty, abusive relationships, and career plans can all cause a woman to choose not to have a child.

But some people also just do not want to be parents. There is no other reason. And guess what? There shouldn't have to be any other reason. Plenty of men who didn't want to be fathers just walked away. Women are not allowed this option. Until recently (historically), women were not allowed any option. 35 years ago women were given an option. Contrary to the cries of opponents, the human race has continued. Children are still being born.

Pro-Choice works for everyone. See, I am pro-choice, yet I have a child. I've never had an abortion. No one came to my door to tell me to abort, even though the law allows me to have one. As an advocate of pro-choice, I have never told anyone to have an abortion. I celebrate the decisions that women make regarding their own reproductive health and future. Anti-choice advocates never think about if "anti-choice" were turned in the other direction. What if the government forced all undesirables to abort their pregnancies? To me, that is as disturbing as forcing people who don't want children to have them.

Yesterday I found out that my state still has a law on the books that makes abortion illegal. The passing of Roe v. Wade has made that law null, but if Roe is ever overturned, the women in my state will not have safe, legal abortions available to them. This will force women to seek out dangerous means of terminating an unwanted pregnancy. This will surely kill or maim women. I am now going to do what I can to see that my state repeals this law, so that women are not forced to put their lives at risk.

One thing about voting pro-choice, it can help decrease the number of abortions. Pro-choice laws and candidates are also more likely to include birth control options. If the number of unwanted pregnancies are decreased, the number of abortions decreases.

Vote pro-choice, and then decide for yourself if you ever need to.

Friday, January 18, 2008

Help Me!!!

I have been home with my baby for a while now. I am finally in a routine that is pretty predictable, and I am even able to multitask (to a degree).

Unfortunately I am a bad television junkie. I know that I should just turn it off, but I need something else to distract me. Lately I have been watching crappy shows like Maury (it's on for two back-to-back hours) and Dr. Phil. I need a list of recommended readings.

Here are some hints to help you recommend a book for me.

I love Joyce Carol Oates.
Classics are not off limits, in fact I welcome them.
I'm not big on "self-help" or "inspirational" texts.
I would prefer not to read a book that has been made into a TV movie.
Non-fiction is great, so long as it doesn't have too much jargon.

Please, all suggestions will be considered, and I wouldn't be against a "book club" type of discussion (plus it would keep my reading on track).

Thanks for your help!!!

Saturday, January 5, 2008


My daughter is now two-weeks old, and I feel like we have a bit of a routine going. I finally have a moment to blog. This has been the most interesting two weeks of my life. I am so pleased to have a healthy and happy baby, and I am so terrified about how to deal with a new life that depends on me.

I have been blessed to have a husband that is involved, and he was able to take off work for 2 weeks to help me adjust, but mostly he has been bonding, and now he doesn't want to go back to work. I wish he could stay home too.

Now I am faced with a billion questions. Which vaccines are necessary? How much should I feed her? Is she getting enough sleep? Should I throw the television out the window? The overarching question is will I be a good enough parent for her?

I like to think that the simple act of asking these questions puts me on the road to being a good parent, but I want to be sure. I will take advice from anyone who is truly trying to help (i.e. not assholes like Jasper).

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Old enough to know better, young enough to change.